TPT#223 - It Must Be Something Wrong With You (Cousin Vinnie Returns, Pt. 1)

Our first ever guest, from Ep#95 and Ep#96, has come back to visit! We mentioned, then, how their new car affected their frequency of traffic stops, but they have since observed the effect of various other drivers in their old truck. Following up on George and Jess' discussion of health care challenges, Vinnie contribues their doctor experiences to our discussion. Then we return to a frequent discussion topic, sexism in the workplace. Long rambly conversation commence!

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TPT#222 - Awareness Of My Vulnerability

As George recovers from his last hospital stay and prepares for his upcoming surgery, he recalls his concerns about his gender and how others will be affected by it. He also expresses a sense of "nakedness" from the lack of bodily self-determination. Then he realizes, all those types of discomfort are part of dysphoria! Jess also recalls experiencing dysphoria that they didn't realize was dysphoria, although their dysphoria is often more social, while George's was more physical. How do we cope with, or work around, discomfort with our respective genders? That's a skill that we've both got a pretty good handle on, but still requires effort at times.

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TPT#221 - Flip-Off Dance

When George's intestines try to kill him, when Child#3 is a stinky hoarder, when Child#2 has bizarrely unrealistic expectations of us, it's good to be able to use some coping humor. George's ability to cope with strong emotion has increased over his time on HRT, although he still finds his patience has a tendency to disappear abruptly.

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TPT#220x - Fourth Manniversary Retrospective (Entire Conversation With Clips)

The full version of the last three episodes, with a new outtake from Episode 1!

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0:00:23 - 0:36:26
TPT#218 - Getting Your Hands On The Substance

On George's fourth manniversary we reminisce about his transgender journey, from the earliest days of his first decision to transition, to the difficulty he had in accessing HRT, and the joy of finally getting the right amount of testosterone in his body. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 0:02:29 - Episode 1: making the decision to transition
• - 0:04:05 - Episode 1: impatience with access to transition
• - 0:09:22 - Episode 7: George's "trans narrative"
• - 0:18:03 - Episode 4: insurance and healthcare access
• - 0:27:20 - Episode 13: the joy of starting HRT

0:36:26 - 1:15:54
TPT#219 - The Royal "We"

Continuing our fourth manniversary trans-in-review, once George finally got HRT started, his body began changing. Once the changes became noticable, it was time to start coming out as male. Coming out to our kids and family was no problem. Working for the government, however, and especially in a small town, meant that nothing could be easy and especially not coming out. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 0:37:18 - Episode 25: early changes on testosterone
• - 0:45:10 - Episode 20: coming out to the kids
• - 0:53:26 - Episode 28: trying to prepare for coming out at work
• - 1:04:25 - Episode 29: finally getting to come out at work

The letter we referenced in Ep29 is at transpantastic.net/2013/09/the-work-letter.html.


1:15:54 - 1:48:35
TPT#220 - Looking Right At Me

In our final installment of George's fourth manniversary reminiscings, we discuss some of the things that are better for George, now that he's regularly percieved as the man he is. From men's rooms and STPs, to clothes and how they fit, to the way he's treated in our culture, life is better for him now than it's ever been. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 1:16:12 - Episode 56: the men's room report
• - 1:18:51 - Episode 66: packing and STPs
• - 1:22:51 - Episode 116: finding clothes that fit
• - 1:26:18 - Episode 138: self-determination, regardless of clothes
• - 1:37:35 - Episode 120: "safety math" & cultural perceptions
• - 1:42:04 - Episode 45: social perception, people are weird
• - 1:44:14 - Episode 89: being treated differently as a man

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TPT#220 - Looking Right At Me (4-Year Transition Retrospective, Pt. 3)

In our final installment of George's fourth manniversary reminiscings, we discuss some of the things that are better for George, now that he's regularly percieved as the man he is. From men's rooms and STPs, to clothes and how they fit, to the way he's treated in our culture, life is better for him now than it's ever been. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 01:06 - Episode 56: the men's room report
• - 03:45 - Episode 66: packing and STPs
• - 07:45 - Episode 116: finding clothes that fit
• - 11:11 - Episode 138: self-determination, regardless of clothes
• - 22:30 - Episode 120: "safety math" & cultural perceptions
• - 26:59 - Episode 45: social perception, people are weird
• - 29:08 - Episode 89: being treated differently as a man

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TPT#219 - The Royal "We" (4-Year Transition Retrospective, Pt. 2)

Continuing our fourth manniversary trans-in-review, once George finally got HRT started, his body began changing. Once the changes became noticable, it was time to start coming out as male. Coming out to our kids and family was no problem. Working for the government, however, and especially in a small town, meant that nothing could be easy and especially not coming out. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 01:42 - Episode 25: early changes on testosterone
• - 09:37 - Episode 20: coming out to the kids
• - 17:54 - Episode 28: trying to prepare for coming out at work
• - 28:55 - Episode 29: finally getting to come out at work

The letter we referenced in Ep29 is at transpantastic.net/2013/09/the-work-letter.html.

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TPT#218 - Getting Your Hands On The Substance (4-Year Transition Retrospective, Pt. 1)

On George's fourth manniversary we reminisce about his transgender journey, from the earliest days of his first decision to transition, to the difficulty he had in accessing HRT, and the joy of finally getting the right amount of testosterone in his body. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times:

• - 02:29 - Episode 1: making the decision to transition
• - 04:05 - Episode 1: impatience with access to transition
• - 09:22 - Episode 7: George's "trans narrative"
• - 18:03 - Episode 4: insurance and healthcare access
• - 27:20 - Episode 13: the joy of starting HRT

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TPT#217 - Pee Into The Hat

Health care is a complicated subject, and getting health care as a transgender person can be even more so. Is the doctor choosing not to touch your body because she's bigoted, or just inept? Is a nurse being snotty because he's tired after a long shift, or because he took a look at your records? As George ages, health care interactions are going to become more frequent, and it's important that his providers are all capable and competent to work with populations of all genders. The good news is, his intestines tried to kill him just in time to have a day off for the mad rush on Gallifrey One hotel reservations!

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TPT#216 - Ground Zero

We got Child#0 to sit down with us at the mic, and we discussed their process of discovering their identity as agender. Egg mode made a traumatic childhood more traumatic, but George and his then wife's welcoming home helped them begin to recover. They are still recovering, and as they come to a larger understanding of human gender, the recognition that "there are others like me and I'm not just broken" is something that many of us can identify with. George took a binary backseat for most of the conversation, as the genderqueer folks discussed their identities and experiences.

Dara Hoffman-Fox's book is currently being reissued by a new publisher and is available for preorder at DiscoverYourGenderIdentity.com.

Ivan Coyote has written and performed a number of amazing pieces on the nature of gender and the way it is percieved by western culture, but the ones we referenced today are at dailyxtra.com/vancouver/dear-lady-in-the-womens-washroom-4771 and slate.com/blogs/outward/2014/04/11/transgender_in_public_bathrooms_why_does_our_safety_always_come_second.html.

We used the problematic terms "fag" and "faggy" as shorthand for a stereotype of an effeminate gay male. We understand that as a reclamation term it is generally expected to be used only by members of a minority of which we may not be percieved to be a part. For a fuller explanation of cultural expectations around reappropriation of slurs, check out a great piece by the late Matt Kailey at mattkailey.wordpress.com/2014/02/17/ask-matt-three-criteria-for-reclaiming-harmful-language. We chose to retain this term in today's conversation because it exemplifies the conflation of gender and orientation that is common in western culture and against which we still struggle in our own processing.

The pictures Jess showed Child#0 of presentations they identify with are:



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TPT#215 - Fill In The Rest Of The Letters

George is a gnome, and heteronormativity is weird AF. The human brain has a propensity to fill in gaps in available knowledge with inferences based on prior experience. We categorize things and synthesize ideas to assign meaning to things we don't fully understand. But when someone's entire experience is comprised of only one type of experience, they may apply inaccurate preconceptions to those of us whose existence has been primarily outside of a majority or mainstream.

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