TPT#33 - Oh, For Gender's Sake!

George has been changing. That was kinda the idea of this whole adventure. The word "transition" indicates change. This week, we discuss how the changes in his world, both internally and externally, relate to gender both as a biological concept and as a social construct.

Information on finding a kinesiologist in your area can is online at icak.com.

TPT#32 - Bad Humour and NewOld Endo

When you need to cope with difficult circumstances, it's useful to be able to laugh about them. Raising special needs kids is often frustrating and exhausting, and we occasionally make jokes that would, out of context, be absolutely horrifying. George felt that it would be best to clarify that when we say awful evil horrible things about our children, we don't really mean it, we're just making one another laugh.

We segue (badly) from there into discussing the endocrinologist that George was referred to. Which happens to be the same one he had the hassles with back in the spring, 'round abouts episodes 4 to 10. Thankfully, this time around they seem much more supportive.

TPT#31 - STP'ing

Now that the question of which bathroom to use is fairly settled for George, he's started researching various Stand-To-Pee devices. Links to the two he's used are in the post below. After discussing the specific items he's begun familiarizing himself with, we delved deeper into the topic of gender dysphoria, and George is very thankful that while he would very much appreciate the experience of having genitalia that matched his gender, he does not feel the need to utilize prostheses to assist in managing the discongruity.

STP'ing Links

As discussed in today's episode, #31 "STP'ing", the two items George has made use of so far:

All you buy for this one is a 1/2 gallon juice or milk carton. Not good-looking, but it works!
- Homemade: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TLiaVVihEn4

This one looks natural-ish, and works okay.
- Made by #1 Laboratory: http://www.etsy.com/shop/NumberOneLaboratory
- As purchased from Good Vibrations: http://www.goodvibes.com/display_product.jhtml?id=17AJ04

TPT#30 - Back To Work

Returning to work after three weeks of leave can be daunting, but the results of surgery and changes from five months on testosterone have probably affected that process, and George's colleagues have been, on the whole, supportive and encouraging. Meanwhile, the kids are still extra-special, and Jess is slightly peeved that George made her put clothes on but is otherwise content.

TPT#29 - Work Fix?

"THE LETTER" has been sent. Finally. Everyone who responded has been supportive, and now George can get back to work, which is a good thing. His boss and colleagues have been covering his workload while he's been out, and they're very ready to be done with that.

The Work Letter!

As promised. Finally approved. Listen in this week for the last (hopefully) of the work drama.

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Respected colleagues,

I am writing to inform you of changes that I am in the process of making. I am transgender, and have begun the process of changing my appearance to match that of my male gender identity. I will not be changing my name, but I will no longer be a "girl George". As I become more masculine, you may continue to see changes in my appearance and self-presentation, but please be assured that I am still just me.

It is customary in the English language to refer to men with the gendered pronouns "he", "him", or "his". I also ask that you start using male pronouns when referring to me, both in person and in writing, email, etc.. I recognize that this may be difficult at first, and I will not be offended by genuine mistakes if made without malice. However, this change is necessary to avoid confusion for clients, new coworkers, and others. I am aware that some of you may not understand or approve of this change, but I request that you continue to treat me with human dignity as I do you.

I will be out of the office until returning on [end leave date] and upon my return I intend to present fully as male. That will be the "official date" of transition here at the office, and I am in the process of changing all my legal documents to reflect this information. I expect that some of you may have questions. If you do, please do not hesitate to talk to me. There are some personal questions I may not answer, but questions about this process are definitely open for discussion with me directly. You may instead choose to discuss this with [director's name], who has requested that any questions or concerns that are not to be addressed to me for any reason at all be communicated directly to him. Additionally, you may wish to view the following links that are chock-full of great information about gender identity and the process of transition. You may also forward this e-mail if someone was missed from the addressing process and is asking about it.

http://lgbcenter.ucdavis.edu/lgbt-education/trans-ally-tips
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xXAoG8vAyzI
… or, like my wife says, "go ask your Google."
http://www.google.com/search?q=what+is+transgender+transition

TPT#28 - Work Woes

♪♫ Hi ho, hi ho, it's off to schedule a meeting... George's leave time is up, but he's not headed back to work just yet. The letter still isn't approved, and they haven't decided how to handle the situation. They haven't even decided how to go about deciding. The only thing they have decided is that he should stay home until it's decided.

TPT#27 - Post-Operative Productivity

George is recovering well from top surgery. If you missed the link on our Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook, or Google+, the meditations George used were "Stress Free Surgery: A Self Relaxation Program to Help You Prepare for and Recover from Surgery", by Linda Thomson.

As of recording, his work still hasn't figured out the email thing. We still plan on publishing it when it's been sent, so watch this space.

TPT#26 - Pre-Operative Problem-Solving

George has a date for top surgery... next week! We could've announced that sooner, but we didn't want to jinx it. Or spoil the surprise. Or something like that. He has work leave scheduled and pre-operative instructions from the surgeon. While he's on leave, we're hoping that his supervisors will distribute "the letter" via email, but some of them are still confused as to why that might even be necessary. If/when it's approved, we'll post a copy at TransPanTastic.net. Until then, you can find lots of other examples by googling "transgender transition work letter".

Also, we laugh about Child #2's attempts at swearing. Hence the "explicit" marker.