Saturday, April 29, 2017

TPT#216 - Ground Zero

We got Child#0 to sit down with us at the mic, and we discussed their process of discovering their identity as agender. Egg mode made a traumatic childhood more traumatic, but George and his then wife's welcoming home helped them begin to recover. They are still recovering, and as they come to a larger understanding of human gender, the recognition that "there are others like me and I'm not just broken" is something that many of us can identify with. George took a binary backseat for most of the conversation, as the genderqueer folks discussed their identities and experiences.

Dara Hoffman-Fox's book is currently being reissued by a new publisher and is available for preorder at

Ivan Coyote has written and performed a number of amazing pieces on the nature of gender and the way it is percieved by western culture, but the ones we referenced today are at and

We used the problematic terms "fag" and "faggy" as shorthand for a stereotype of an effeminate gay male. We understand that as a reclamation term it is generally expected to be used only by members of a minority of which we may not be percieved to be a part. For a fuller explanation of cultural expectations around reappropriation of slurs, check out a great piece by the late Matt Kailey at We chose to retain this term in today's conversation because it exemplifies the conflation of gender and orientation that is common in western culture and against which we still struggle in our own processing.

The pictures Jess showed Child#0 of presentations they identify with are:

Jeffrey Marsh


Jacob Tobia

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  2. Dara Hoffman-FoxMay 9, 2017 at 9:40 PM

    That was an awesome episode! I am happy to hear the book was of such use for you. It sounds like we have a lot in common, when it comes to how we identify. I had never heard someone else say that they would describe any femininity they experience as more so that of feeling like a gay man - somebody else gets it! Anyway, cheers to you!